How Horses Can Help You Deal with Grief
It seems that at this time of year our elderly grandparents or parents leave this earthly life. I lost my father and both sets of grandparents around the Christmas holiday or shortly thereafter.
Grief is a natural part of life for everyone.
It doesn’t care if you’re young or old, how much money you make, or what color skin you have; dealing with grief is universal. At some point, all of us will have to deal with the grief of losing someone we love.
Yet, the feelings and emotions that take over during this time can leave you feeling alone. Sometimes not even knowing what you want; you don’t want to be alone yet you don’t want anyone around. Since grief doesn’t recognize any kind of timeline, it’s something that you can be dealing with for years, not sure how to get past it.
Would it surprise you to know that a horse can be your best friend during this time?
That feeling of not wanting to be alone yet not wanting anyone around; a horse can fill that space for you. Or that feeling of not knowing or understanding your emotions; a horse can help you understand and accept what you’re going through.
Horses are able to read body language and sense emotions, both from other horses and from humans. Their intuition helps them to instantly pick up on your emotions and respond in a manner that will provide comfort and support. You see, they mirror our emotions, which helps to provide us with feedback so that we are able to get in touch with what we’re feeling even if we are not able to put it in words.
By attending an equine gestalt session, both adults and children can partner with a horse in a non-confrontational and supportive manner.
Through exercises with the horse, you can begin to address the emotions you’re feeling about your loss. Sometimes it’s as simple as talking to the horse and sharing feelings that you haven’t been able to express with others.
Equine gestalt work can help you find the closure you’re looking for on your own terms too.
You can create your own form of closure that helps you heal through time and conversations with the horse.
This form of grief therapy is one of the best there is, letting go of the stuffiness and spotlight of a therapist’s office and encouraging you to interact in a comforting and supporting environment.
There is no “one size fits all” way to work through your grief with a horse.
Some might find it helpful to just be near a horse, interacting and not riding, while others find riding therapeutic. That will be for you to decide. One thing’s for certain, regardless of how you interact, the interaction alone will help you come to terms with your grief.