A submissive personality is someone who willingly submits to the authority of someone else. They have a service-oriented mindset and find peace in taking instructions from those he or she looks up to. This can be at home, at workplace, with friends or in community relationships.

Healthy submissive relationships are both conscious and consensual; one party has agreed to carry more power of one kind or another, most often in decision making. The other party has agreed to go along.

You can imagine that it takes a significant amount of trust for a submissive person to consent to living with these terms.

It’s important to note that submissiveness has nothing to do with equality. In a healthy relationship where one person is in charge, the submissive person feels no threat to his or her value or equal standing as long as the roles each person plays are consensual.

While it may seem that submissive personalities just go along to get along and don’t have much thought of their own, quite the opposite is true.  Submissive people tend to have some amazing personality traits.

They have a deep sense of self-awareness; they know who they are and what they have to offer. It can take years of your life to finally learn who you are, and many people never do.  Submissive are confident in who they are and what makes them happy.

They are also very aware of the needs of others.  The world is full of self-serving narcissists who use other people to get what they want. Submissive people, however, are acutely aware of what other people need. They find a great deal of happiness in meeting those needs and being of service.

Healthy submissive people are anything but lazy; in fact, they are very hard-working. They’re up to the task at hand and can be depended on to get things done. This is because they actually care about genuinely pleasing those in charge.

Submissive personalities experience peace of mind.  Knowing what you’re responsible for, and what is not your responsibility, can be a huge relief, creating peace. A healthy submissive person knows what they need to take care of. And he or she does not have to worry about anything else.

Lastly, people with a submissive personality have high self-esteem.  Someone with deep self-awareness, who is aware of other people’s needs, works hard, and enjoys peace of mind, is naturally a valuable person. And he or she knows it.

Not all submissive people share all of these traits.  And not all submissive people are submissive in every area of their life. But they do know their boundaries and are able to excel in areas they feel comfortable in.

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